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Divorce most certainly can be complicated.  Children add to the complexity.  The more assets you have the more complex your divorce.  The more debts you have, the more complicated your divorce.  The more emotional you are throughout your divorce, .... right again.... the more complicated your divorce.  As you can see, there is a pattern here.

So what can you do from a practical perspective to help things go more smoothly?

1.  Check your emotions at the door.  Divorce is not easy.  It can certainly be emotional.  Yet many people let their emotions control their decision-making which usually leads to decisions counterproductive to the successful completion of their divorce.

2.  Get Realistic.  Divorce is not about vindication, mental cleansing or revenge against your spouse.  Divorce is a process for two spouses to go their separate ways equitably.  If you are not realistic then you will not be prepared when you don't get everything you want in the divorce or when a decision by the court doesn't go your way.   You need to understand and be realistic about:

a)  The Process - It takes time and it isn't perfect.  There are continuances, judge's get sick,  courtrooms get changed, attorneys have conflicts, judges sometimes make decisions in chambers conferences.

b)  Your Attorney - Attorney's aren't perfect and neither are all clients.  Keep in mind that attorneys have multiple clients and they try to keep all their clients happy and informed.  Yet attorneys have families and lives just like you and they try to work that all in to their
lives.  If your attorney isn't calling you or sending you copies of letters, check with your attorney to see if he or she is trying to save you money.  Don't be offended if an attorney gives you legal advice that you don't want to hear and won't take.  The attorney is obligated to do so.  Understand that while an attorney may care about you and your case, it is their livelihood to give legal advice and take care of matters on your case and they get paid for whatever they do on your behalf.

C.  The Court - The Family Court is present to facilitate the divorce process.  You should realize that it is not a place to do anything other than get your divorce completed and close the court's file.  Hearings may take place.  Rulings may be made by Judges that do not go your way.  Objections may be made on your behalf that are not sustained when perhaps they should be.  The court is not perfect.  This is precisely why their is an appeal process in place if your attorney believes that the judge made reversible error.

3.  Expect to Compromise.   Parties rarely agree on everything in a divorce.  Therefore it is inevitable that one or both of the parties will have to compromise if they want to get this divorce completed in a reasonable period of time rather than going to trial.  Most divorces do not go to trial even when parties want them too.  The court knows that trails tie up a judge and a court room for a substantial amount of time and therefore they use mediation, conferences and recommended judicial compromises to avoid the avenue of a trial.  Though it may not be the way the system should operate, it is the way the divorce system does operate.

Authored by:

Christopher A. Pearsall, Esquire
571 Pontiac Avenue
Cranston, RI  02910
Phone:  (401) 354-2369

Attorney Pearsall's practice is focused almost exclusively in the areas of Divorce and Family law.

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