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RI Divorce Lawyers - Painting a Rosy Picture May Net You a Divorce Fantasy and Nothing More!

As a Rhode Island Lawyer focusing my practice exclusively in the area of Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law, I have learned that when people come in for a consultation they want to tell me their story and they want to be told exactly what they want to hear. 

Yes, despite the fact that every divorce lawyer may not portray a realistic scenario to the potential client, clients need to realize that a lawyer may tell them exactly what they want to hear.

If you skimmed that last paragraph which was only one sentence long and you have already forgotten it, then . . . my dear reader . . .WAKE UP!

I'll repeat it because it is so crucial and I'll even be more blunt.  Some lawyers . . . to get your business . . . will tell you exactly what you want to hear!  They may give you results that are not realistic not just for your divorce case but for ANY divorce case.

Lawyers are businesspeople and they get hit by economic times too.  Without clients they don't have income.  Without income, many of them can't afford that cushy little porshe or mercedes they drive.  Without income,  they may have to consider making a late payment on their house or their summer home.  Without clients, the lifestyle a lawyer may have developed for him or herself doesn't last long.  So the lawyer needs to bring in clients. 

That may be you!  Wouldn't it be nice to go into a divorce lawyer and give him or her a quick snapshot of your life with your spouse and kids and then he or she tells you how everything is going to be fine, that they've dealt with this scenario a million times before and that if you hire them, then they will deal with all that anxiety for you and it will be over before you know it.  Imagine a lawyer telling you that all this stress you are feeling right now is needless because the lawyer is going to get you a great divorce settlement and that you should let him or her deal with it and your troubles will be over.

Now, here you are all comfortable and feeling that this lawyer is going to take care of all your divorce troubles when he tells you the cost.  If you are especially stressed out, are you likely to agree to provide him or her with a $3,500 retainer at an hourly rate of $250 per hour?  Most people will find a way to do so because the lawyer is offering a solution to divorce stress and anxiety in your personal life.  What is more painful to you?  The stress and anxiety at home or parting with a few thousand dollars.  In many instances the stress outweighs the money. 

Some, but not all lawyers will do this.  Let me give you an example that came up recently but I'll change the players and the issue itself to protect the privacy of the individual involved.

Clyde met with me for a consultation.  Clyde wanted to divorce his wife Cassie.  Clyde and Cassie had a fight and Cassie told Clyde that he could go ahead and divorce her because she'd be set for life.  Clyde didn't know what Cassie was talking about so he asked her.  "Well", Cassie snapped, "I've already been to a lawyer and he already explained to me that you're going to have to pay me alimony and I'll be doing just great and you'll be broke."  Clyde looked at her in disbelief. 

"Really?" Clyde stated in disbelief.  "Yes.", Cassie answered.  The lawyer told me that you'll have to pay me alimony "indefinitely".  Clyde answered, "I don't think that's true Cassie.  You may want to check with another lawyer."

Cassie got angrier.  "I don't need you telling me what to do.  I've already seen a lawyer and I know what is going on and my lawyer said you're going to be paying me alimony FOREVER!"

"I don't think that's how it works Cassie. So you may want to check with another Rhode Island divorce lawyer."  Clyde was urging her now.

"Nope.  I like this guy and he's told me exactly how it's going to go for you and I like that just fine.  So go ahead and serve me with the papers because I don't like the way you're handling the money as it is."

In this situation it isn't hard to see what has happened.  Cassie went to a lawyer for what was probably a free consultation and she told the lawyer what was probably only her side of the story.  The economy is hurting and the attorney figured out what Cassie wanted to hear in order to hire him as her attorney.  So the attorney painted Cassie a very rosy picture and told her exactly what she wanted to hear in order to get her as his divorce client.

Only too often this is the rule rather than the exception.

It is best to remember the old adage.  If something sounds too good to be true. . . it probably is!  The easiest way to get a divorce client is to tell him or her what they want to hear instead of being honest about the process and what may or may not occur.

If a lawyer is pressing you to engage him or her as your divorce lawyer, usually this is a warning sign.  If you don't hear a few things that put you on edge during a consultation because they cause you to worry a little, this is another warning sign.  If you hear everything you want to hear AND you are pressured into retaining the lawyer's services quickly this is a warning sign as well.

On rare occasions when there is an uncontested divorce or when the parties have good respect and communication with each other, then it is reasonable to hear everything you want to hear from the lawyer.  Otherwise, if the lawyer doesn't raise some possible issues that give you cause for concern, then you should consider whether the lawyer is just telling you what you want to hear just to get your business, especially if the lawyer stands to gain a substantial hourly rate off the arrangement.

In the end, be careful.  If you hear exactly what you want to hear when there could be issues of alimony, child support, visitation, placement, retirement plans and real estate division, then you should shop around by selecting lawyers who are known to routinely practice divorce law before the Rhode Island Family Courts.

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Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers - Young Children and Evidence!

Imagine that you have a divorce that is pending before the Rhode Island family courts.  Your children are visiting with their father and you find out from the children that your children have been in the presence of a third-party female that you aren't familiar with.  You don't know anything else other than what your children have told you that a woman has been around with their father from time to time.  There is no indication that this woman is over frequently but the children seem to like her and you are concerned that the children are being exposed to an improper influence.

You contact your lawyer and want to go before the family court to stop the exposure of your children to this woman because you think that it is a new girlfriend that your husband has.  Your lawyer is hesitant but files a motion to restrain and enjoin your husband from having the children in the presence of any woman who is not related to either of the parties.

Your attorney goes into court and the judge asks your attorney what evidence, if any, that has been obtained in support of the motion to restrain this father from having the children around ANY third-party female.  Your attorney mentions that he minor children have been telling their mother that this woman is around them when they have visitation with their father.  The judge asks if their is anything else.  The attorney answers "No".   The judge denies the motion.  The mother of the children is furious that the judge denied the motion when he or she was given the information.

The mother's attorney tries to explain the technicalities regarding the rules of evidence but she doesn't want to hear it.  The mother believes her children are telling her the truth and they have no reason to lie.  The attorney explains that minor children are not allowed to testify before the court due to their age and because they may be counseled by one or the other parent to provide an altered representation of the events.  The attorney also explains that children are not considered a reasonably reliable source of information before the court, especially when it comes to restraining an adult from his right to be around other people.  The mother is not happy and doesn't understand.

Evidence must be relevant to the subject matter of the case.  Evidence also must be presented under oath by a person capable of understanding the court's oath and the consequences of disobedience of that oath.  Evidence also must be reliable and cannot be hearsay or must be an exception to the hearsay rules of evidence.  Children do not fall within the standard of reliability necessary to satisfy a court proceeding in order to make a valid decision.  Children also do not have sufficient appreciation of what it means to take an oath and what the consequences may be if they do not tell the truth.

At best, the information from a child is very often only information that a parent can used to follow up on in order to verify or disprove what the child has said.

Young children and their statements are not normally considered evidence before the court, though the court has discretion to consider whether the child may be considered reliable and whether the child is old enough to appreciate the significance of the oath he or she must take.

In the end, it is best not to rely upon statements of minor children to win any hearing in family court.  Develop the information and be able to testify to it personally yourself and your are in a better position to prove your case.

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Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers Tip: Divorce History a Help!

Originally the Rhode Island Family Court and divorce proceedings were part of the Rhode Island Superior Court.  Though they remained a court of superior jurisdiction, the Family Court was created to address family related matters which in and of themselves comprised a substantial number of cases focused on the specific subject of legal matters dealing with relationships, the well-being of the family unit and contracts such as marriage.

Seeing the need for a separate court to address divorces and relationships which resulted in contract-like situations, the RI General Assembly established the Rhode Island Family Court system and its underlying structure.

It is helpful and important to know that Rhode Island Divorce lawyers often deal with very emotional issues for their clients because with marriage often comes divorce - the severing of the living situation, financial dependencies the parties have with each other, the children borne of the marriage, and the assets and debts accumulated during the courts of the marriage.

It is extremely help however to understand that the RI Family Court system arose out of the Superior Courts due, in large part, to the contractual nature of marriage.

A marriage, though not viewed by many people as such, is in fact a contract.  During that contract children may be born, assets may be acquired, debts may be accumulated and one of the parties may need financial assistance to survive the dissolution of the marriage contract.

Do you want to get through your divorce and move on with your life as quickly as possible?  Then as difficult it is, put aside your emotions and think about where the judge is sitting and what he or she must do.

Imagine your case the way the judge does.  The judge sits there day in and day out hearing all kinds of saga, including emotions, hard luck stories, bitter retorts, vindictive statements, heartfelt pleas to punish the other spouse and more.  Yet the judge isn't there to be your counselor or to take the court's time so that you can say your piece just to get it off your chest and feel somewhat better just for having said it.

The judge sits on the bench in a divorce case to help the parties reach an equitable result to the dissolution to your marriage contract.   

Think about the judge's role and take the most direct result to the resolution of your divorce that is fair and reasonable or that is acceptable to you.

While the judge sits on the bench he or she has a specific role, namely to identify and deal with the important aspects of what your marriage produced.  Usually it is fairly straightforward.

1)  Minor Children
2)  Marital Assets
3)  Marital Debt
4)  A Spouse's ability to financially survive after the divorce.

While it is true that each of these items has each of its own characteristics, a divorce can reasonably be converted down into these four (4) basic elements for the purposes of understanding how you can help yourself through it.

This is simply a practical tip that will help any party to a divorce, IF, you can do it. 

1)  Put your emotions of rejection, anger, feelings of fault, depression, and all other emotions about your relationship away as much as possible when dealing with your Rhode Island Divorce Lawyer.  Why?  Because lawyers address the legal issues the court will rule on and unless they have counseling training for mental health issues, they are not the best ones to voice those concerns too.

I am not recommending that you bury your feelings or that you don't deal with them at all.  I am suggesting that you find a good psychologist, psychotherapist, individual counselor, family counselor and/or marriage counselor and talk them out, whether they be feelings about your spouse's infidelity or your own insecurity or fears.  Your emotions should be dealt with by a professional skilled in mental health and emotional issues.

2)  Focus on what the judge must deal with in your marriage.  Those are the four points I have listed above.  These are at the center of your Rhode Island divorce.   If you can remove the emotion from these points and focus on them in the order they are listed and decide upon them in the order in which they are listed then you will have the best opportunity to resolve your divorce as quickly and and effectively as possible to move on with your life.

The Rhode Island family courts are not a forum for waging vendettas and punishing your spouse for the wrongdoing you believe he or she has committed that have caused you to feel hurt or embarrassment.  Move on with your life sensibly and maintain your self-respect and dignity.  In this way, your life will grow and be enhanced much more quickly.

Life is all about change but not all change is bad.  Divorce is a big change for spouses and for children but it need not be a bad change.  Divorce is not only an ending of something you are familiar with, it is the beginning of something new, a great adventure that may bring you untold happiness without measure.

Embrace it and Live for You!

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  Christopher A. Pearsall
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A Rhode Island Family Lawyer's Perception on Protection from Abuse Orders.

Rhode Island law provides for persons subject to physical violence or threats that create a reasonable fear of imminent physical harm to obtain from the court an Order of Protection for that physical violence or threat of imminent physical harm.

This Order is most often sought by women who represent to the court that they are in fear of their husband or significant other based upon some recent conduct he has done.  The Order typically restrains and enjoins the man from harassing, molesting, stalking, cyber-stalking or in any way contacting the complainant at home, at work or on the street.  The  Order may also require the threating party to leave the marital home or the residence where both parties may reside until the matter may be heard within three (3) weeks after the judge grants the initial Order based solely upon the claimant's affidavit.

Perhaps the biggest mistake serious complainants who have been threatened or harmed make is to appear at the hearing three (3) weeks later without a Rhode Island family law lawyer and dismiss the complaint.  This could be for any number of reasons, including a change of heart, a continued hope that the abuser will change, guilt associated with excluding the father from his home or children, or pressure from other family members.

I mention this because most often what occurs is this.  The abuser is allowed to continue the course of conduct he or she has caused or is not taught that this conduct is unacceptable.  Abusers typically will continue to contact the complainant even after they have been served with the Protection from Abuse Order.  Regrettably, the complainant who has obtained the Protection from Abuse Order allows this conduct and does not call the police to have the Order enforced.  Unfortunately, it is often because the "contact" is often apologetic, endearing and pleading by the abuser in an effort to get the complainant to do exactly what I have mentioned here, namely to go to the court hearing in three (3) weeks and drop the Protection from Abuse Order.

What the complainant should be considering are questions such as the ones listed below in order to avoid making a big mistake.

1)  How long have you had a relationship with the abuser?

2)  How extreme was the conduct of the abuser when compared to the length of the relationship

3)  Is this a one time instance of abuse or has the abusive conduct been gradually increasing?

4)  If you have children, will this choice be the best for the child or children or will you be subjecting them to further abuse?

5)  Are you being guilted into this decision?  Or are family members pressuring you to drop this?

6)  Do you honestly believe that the abuser has changed in just a few short weeks

Complainants should seriously question their decision to drop a Protection from Abuse Order.  The law is there to protect you.  If your complaint is genuine, the use of the law is appropriate and you could return to court in the future to ask the court to remove the Protection from Abuse Order.  However, it is unwise to disillusion yourself into thinking that the abusing party has changed in such a short period of time.

To the contrary, if you have used the system simply to teach the "alleged abuser" a lesson, then do the court and everyone else a favor and drop the restraining order.  You are wasting your time, the court's time and resources and misusing the law for your own purposes which the law wasn't intended to address.

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  Christopher A. Pearsall
Attorney-at-Law
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Coping with the Consequences of Your Rhode Island Divorce

Coping with a Rhode Island divorce situation isn't easy.  It can be harder with children if the parents focus on their own emotions, legal and person goals and forget about the children.  Yet sometimes it can be easier with children if both parents are focused more on the well-being of the children than their own needs.

People often call to ask what I charge for a divorce without realizing that each divorce is just as different as each person coping with a divorce handles the situations, issues and emotions differently.

Though Rhode Island divorce lawyers are not "counselors" in the sense of a psychologist or other mental healthcare professional, it often falls upon the divorce attorney to address emotional and psychological issues that arise during a divorce proceeding.

In this sense a well-trained or seasoned lawyer who is also experienced in dealing with the mental and emotional fallout that accompanies a divorce can be an asset to you and your case.

Coping with divorce is an individual process. 

For instance, John may be divorcing his wife Jane after 20 years of marriage.  John is agreeable and may not have a problem at all going through the divorce process itself and reaching an amicable agreement with his spouse.

Yet John may not realize the full impact of the divorce until his first night sitting alone in his own apartment with no one to talk to, no one to a meal with and sleep in a single bed alone.  John may suddenly realize the ramifications of divorcing his wife go well beyond simply not being "happy" anymore like he felt in the first five years of his marriage.  It may not be until this point that John begins "coping with divorce."  In this instance, the Rhode Island Divorce lawyer is of little assistance and John may need to seek the assistance of a mental health professional if he finds stress, loneliness or depression taking hold.

In another case Gale may be filing for divorce from her husband Tom after a 4 year marriage.  Gale may be adamant about her divorce after she realizes that instead of attending late night meetings at the office Tom has been stopping by the local strip club.  By all accounts Gale and Tom both agree they have had an active sex life.  In this case the attorneys for either Tom or Gale may find himself or herself in the position to help Tom or Gale "cope" with their divorce.  Tom may wish to settle things quickly and be very angry because he does not want it to come out that he went to a local strip club because he also participates in the local Catholic Church as a Lector is a Knight of Columbus and is viewed a a model family man.  Tom may want to express his anger in court, need calming or need to understand how Gale might feel in this situation in order to appreciate his own conduct.  Tom's attorney, with the right approach, may be able to help Tom with his emotional struggle by directing Tom into a calmer state of mind which will foster a better attitude toward a settlement by discussing the possibilities of sealing the court record or including a non-disclosure clause in the settlement.  Tom's attorney may also be instrumental in helping Tom realize that he needs the assistance of an individual or a marriage and family counseling therapist.

The point here is that Tom's need to "cope with divorce" may arise much sooner than John's did in the prior example.  Each person's needs are different and it is those people who appreciate all the consequences of a divorce proceeding before the proceeding is completed, that can be aided by a good Rhode Island Divorce attorney who recognizes and appreciates the client's non-legal needs and assists the client either personally by helping the client deal with those non-legal issues either personally through his or her own experience or by referring the client to a licensed therapist if it appears that would be helpful to the client.

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Christopher A. Pearsall, Esquire
PEARSALL LAW ASSOCIATES
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Cranston, RI  02910
Phone:  (401) 354-2369

Attorney Pearsall's practice is focused almost exclusively in the areas of Divorce and Family law.

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NOTE:  The postings on this website are NOT legal advice, DO NOT create an attorney/client relationship and are NOT a substitute for a detailed consultation with an attorney experienced in the state where you have your legal issue.  This site is based on Rhode Island and is presented for the convenience of the internet public.

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Ease your Rhode Island Divorce by Adopting a Responsive State of Mind

In my Rhode Island Divorce article called "Divorcing with Dignity" I alluded to the fact that when you divorce your spouse you have a better chance of doing so amicably with both spouses retaining their dignity rather than arguing, fighting and bickering at each other simply by retaining your power as the client to direct the focus of your divorce.

The title of that divorce article was to call to your attention as a divorcing party that there is more than one aspect to a divorce. Divorcing with Dignity focused its emphasis on the damage that can be done when emotions are triggered in one (or both) of the spouses and your case suddenly spirals out of control because either one or both of you are in a reactive rather than a responsive state of mind. 

A reactive state of mind is present when a person simply reacts to something that is done or said by another person based solely on the emotions he or she feels about what has been said or done by their spouse.

A responsive state of mind is present when a person rationally processes what has been said or done by their spouse (which may or may not trigger strong emotions that urge you to react) and logically thinks through the situation in context.

In a reactive state in a divorce situation such as the one outlined in my article "Divorcing with Dignity" the spouse who was served with the Divorce Complaint immediately saw the words "sole custody" and became emotional.  The spouse that was served might have interpreted that in several ways based upon a gut emotional reaction.  The spouse that was served might have thought that "sole custody" meant that thee other spouse wanted to take away his or her rights.  Or, the spouse that was served might have thought that the spouse who filed the divorce action lied and had no intention of being reasonable.  Or, the spouse that was served might have thought it implied he or she was somehow incompetent or incapable of having custody. 

Whatever the spouse who was served with the Divorce Complaint interpreted the request for "sole custody" to mean, that spouse's response was from a reactive state of mind.  The spouse did not take time to rationally process what was contained in the Divorce Complaint.  Rather, the spouse reacted emotionally and made statements to the other spouse in anger that may have been interpreted as threats, a lack of reasonableness, a lack of trust, an unwillingness to allow the spouse to explain and even as an accusation that the spouse filing the divorce was a liar.

Imagine now what happens in this case if the spouse who filed the divorce complaint and trusted the lawyer, also adopts a reactive state and becomes hurt and/or furious because the spouse wasn't even given the opportunity to explain that the words "sole custody" were put in the Divorce Complaint by the attorney who does so as a standard practice.  The spouse who filed for divorce might not feel so amicable anymore.  He or she might now be angry and furious that an explanation should have been allowed.

Now the spouse who was served may have triggered emotions in the spouse who filed the divorce to enter into a reactive state of mind as well.  Now, both parties are emotional, mistrusting of one another and animosity has been created which may prevent you from amicably settling the divorce at all.

Regrettably I've seen this happen on many occasions and in some instances despite the best legal or mental health counseling you can't undo the damage that has been done or reverse the reactive states because they have gained too much momentum in the minds of one or both or the spouses.

So what are the consequences?

One or both spouses are likely to be in emotional states that make them uncomfortable in some way.  It is almost certain that the spouses aren't in an emotional state that bears any resemblance to "happiness".   This  emotional discomfort causes the mind to be distracted and takes a toll on your body both emotionally and physically.  Some medical professionals even believe that extended stressful situations such as divorce can lead to shortened lifespans as well as early greying, hairloss, nervous conditions and may trigger anxiety, panic disorders and even chronic clinical depression.

Once spouses begin to make reactive decisions in a divorce situation, there is a good chance that one or both spouses may continue that pattern and continue making reactive decisions. 

What if we have children?

If you have children, especially if they live with you and are below their teen year, those children may

1. Feel and absorb the tension between the spouses,
2. May receive less love, care or attention from one or both spouses as they tend to focus more of their energies on the emotion war with their spouse in the divorce,
3. They may feel or take the backlash of their parent's (s') emotions since as human beings we often misplace and misdirect our feelings and emotions and lash out at the people closest to us even though they are not the cause of these emotions,
4. Be traumatized emotionally just by the possibility of losing a parent in their home environment,
5. Become alienated from one of their parents if one parent has left the household and the other parent's misdirected emotions cause that parent to say and do things that foster in the child(ren) the idea that the other parent does not love them, does not care about them and has abandoned them.

So what can you do to ease your divorce?

    As the title suggests . . . Adopt a Responsive State of Mind!

How can I adopt a Responsive State of Mind?

1. Realize that you are the only one that can control your emotions. Your emotions are merely feelings that you attribute you any given situation based upon your interpretation of what you have seen and heard.  Reactive people don't think.  They believe there is only one interpretation for each thing that is done, end of story.  This is not correct.  Each person is an individual and we all have different opinions and different perspectives.  There may be many interpretations and possibly even many "truths" about what a certain event or statement means.


2. Accept that you must control your emotions if you are to remain in a responsive state and make good decisions to ease your stress and focus your divorce in a positive direction.
   
   
3. No matter what your spouse says or does as your divorce progresses take TIME to THINK about what has been said or done.  No doubt you've heard the saying "Cooler heads prevail."  Take it to heart because it is true.  Emotions are neither good nor bad, however, they have the tendency to throw us off balance and cloud our judgment.  With clouded judgment you cannot expect to make good decisions for your life, your children, your assets or your divorce.  Each time an event occurs or something is said by your spouse and it triggers an emotion that urges you to react . . . DON'T!  Take 60 seconds minimum and take a quiet, slow deep breath and think about where your spouse is coming from.  Think about what he or she might be feeling.  Think about how your spouse might be misinterpreting something.  Think about whether your spouse said one thing but really meant something totally different.  When it is time to respond, think about whether your response will take your divorce and your family relationships in the direction you would like to see them go.  Consider if there is any way you can see things from your spouse's point of view and whether what you say will cause your spouse to continue to be reactive or more agreeable.

 

            Now, this may seem quite a bit of work for you to do to help your divorce and your family relationships if you're feeling pressured and you're feeling like you only have 60 seconds to work with.  Trust me when I tell you that you can do it.

            How do I know this?  I've seen people do it and talked to them about it.  You see you have one of the greatest supercomputers with you every moment of every day.  It's your brain.  Even as fast as they make computers today a computer may react as fast as 1/1000th of a second if it has a simple function to perform and it is in good shape and not clogged with errors and programs, etc...  Yet the nerve conduction velocity of commands to and within the human brain is reputed to be 1/100,000th of a second.  At any given moment your brain may be processing more than 100,000 commands and functions just so you can blink, type or even walk and chew gum at the same time.   Your brain is more than capable of handling 10 or 20 questions in 60 seconds.  If you feel you can't respond properly in 60 seconds then remain calm and take as much time as you can.  Your divorce, your mediation, your settlement agreement or anything else in your divorce is not a race to the finish.  Give yourself a break and do yourself a favor.  Take the time you need in order to remain in a responsive state and take your divorce in a positive direction.

    Only you and your spouse have the power to truly ease your divorce.

    Trust me . . . adopt a responsive state of mind in your life and for your divorce.

control of your emotions.  Do not allow yourself be ruled by them and demand of yourself that you will take time to logically think over each and every action you take or each and every action you instruct your attorney to take in your divorce.

Authored by:

Christopher A. Pearsall, Esquire
PEARSALL LAW ASSOCIATES
571 Pontiac Avenue
Cranston, RI  02910
Phone:  (401) 354-2369

Attorney Pearsall's practice is focused almost exclusively in the areas of Divorce and Family law.

CALL (401) 354-2369 now to schedule for your low-cost, no obligation legal consultation!

NOTE:  The postings on this website are NOT legal advice, DO NOT create an attorney/client relationship and are NOT a substitute for a detailed consultation with an attorney experienced in the state where you have your legal issue.  This site is based on Rhode Island and is presented for the convenience of the internet public.

* The Rhode Island Supreme Court licenses all lawyers in the general practice of law and has no procedure for recognition of specialty in any area of law.

Copyright 2008 - Christopher A. Pearsall and Pearsall Law Associates (All Rights Reserved.)